I truly understand the depth of complicated grief and cumulative losses. Based upon my personal experiences, professional training, therapy and education I offer a special coaching process for healing based upon Biblical principles. I know what it is to lose close family members to serious medical problems, accidents, Alzheimer’s, addiction and suicide. I know what it is to relocate over 25 times from city to city/state to state, change careers,separate from close relationships and start over again and again. I am a survivor of abuse, accidents, rape and cancer. I live with chronic pain. But by faith and in God’s grace I am an OVERCOMER IN CHRIST!
Grief is unique and individual–there are no absolutes, stages or specific ways that work for everyone. Some common losses include: death, divorce, retirement, loss of health (serious or chronic medical diagnosis), relocation, pet loss, financial changes; legal problems, empty nest, addiction recovery and could include multiple issues. With grief there are also intangibles such as loss of trust, safety, control. faith and/or ability to be productive.
Grief is a normal response to loss…there are ways to recover from losses.
Signs of Grief
- Concentration and memory problems
- A sense of numbness, prolonged discouragement
- Disrupted sleeping patterns: sleeping too much or insomnia
- Change in your eating habits
- Roller coaster of emotional energy/fatigue
- Social isolation and not enjoying simple pleasures
- Giving up or feeling stuck
Unresolved Grief is cumulative and progressively negative affecting vital decisions and relationships. Too many people bury their grief, deny their feelings and are unable to process their losses. There is too much misinformation, too many myths, hurtful comments and suggestions that confuse people and cause further damage.
Recovery from loss is possible if you are willing to acknowledge your need, make a series of small and correct choices and take the first step toward healing.
Unfortunately, most of us have never been taught how to grieve and we stay stuck rather than making correct choices in response to a loss.
- Recovery means renewed hope, inner peace and feeling better.
- Recovery is finding new meaning, purpose and freedom to live in new ways.
- Recovery is being able to have healthy relationships, to love and be loved,
- Recovery is establishing healthy boundaries, to trust without the fear of being hurt again.
- Recovery is being able to enjoy fond memories without having them turn painful.
- Recovery is acknowledging that it is perfectly all right to feel sad from time to time and to talk about those feelings no matter how those around you react.
“Most importantly, recovery means acquiring the skills we were never taught as a child–and may require letting go of former ways. These Biblical based skills allow us to deal with loss directly. Recovering from a significant emotional/physical or spiritual loss is not an easy process. “Taking the actions that lead to recovery will require your attention, open-mindedness, willingness, and courage.” The Grief Recovery Method ®
We recommend a minimum of seven sessions over a period of time or a weekend intensive…be ready to go deep and experience release and renewal. There is hope even without closure there is a process of completion if you are willing to trust and do your part in grief recovery.
Contact me to set up a free consultation to determine if we are a good connection for grief recovery work.
James, John W. and Friedman, Russell P. The Grief Recovery Handbook, 20th Anniversary Expanded Edition. New York: Harper-Collins, 2009.